The art of unbecoming
Embracing the unknown.
Who are you?
What are you doing?
These are the most asked questions when people meet for the first time.
And it is the reflection of how much we define ourselves through what we do and who (we think) we are.
Of course, it creates a certain kind of comfort "knowing" who we are,
as well for the people around us.
And it doesn't matter how we live, which profession we have,
which kind of lifestyle we are living, if we are happy or unhappy -
the underlying principle is always the same.
We formed a certain personality and live according to it.
And as longer we live it, we identify more and more with it,
equate personality with who we truly are.
And here is the trap - equalizing personality with who we truly are.
We are caught inside our habits, inside our personality, inside how the people around us see us.
So we keep on functioning according to what and to how we used to live. And again, this gives us a kind of comfort and security.
"But", you now might say, there are so many people who even radically changed their lives, left everything behind and started something new or took a sabbatical or..or..or.
Let's take a closer look.
If you know these people in person or if you just observe them...
as far as you can see, did they really change or do they repeat the same patterns just on a different playground?
What a lot of people don't include in the equation is the fact that you always take yourself with you - no matter where you go, no matter how much you change your outer life circumstances.
I encountered many people who tried to change over and over again only to find themselves in the same role again and again - even the places and the people and the life circumstances changed.
Changing the outer conditions, circumstances may bring you some relief, yes. In most of the cases it won't last. In most of the cases you'll find yourself repeating the same old patterns o ver and over again.
True change starts from within and often happens silently even without the person itself noticing something.
It's more like walking through fog and mist.
True change starts with being willing to unbecome, to step into the unknown. To be willing to fully surrender to who you truly are without knowing who you truly are.
Saying yes to the journey and not to focus on a certain outcome.
Every focus we can have is based on our experience and on our belief system, so it just creates another version of the old you.
Especially in our so-called Western world with the supervalued rational mind it's a true challenge, I know.
And just to make it clear: this unbecoming is an ongoing process, you are never done, there is no finish line to be crossed.
I always say that I lived so many lives in one life -
sometimes even joking that it is so much easier than this whole complete dying and being reborn cycle - even in certain phases of the process, it feels exactly like dying and being reborn.
And then sometimes people start arguing: BUT...you stayed in the same professional fields for round about 30 years...and you tell me you changed?
YES...always consider that's not about WHAT we do, it's all about HOW we do it.
And I fully understand that it might be not so obvious for people but nowadays my approach is completely different, because I AM a different person...and I will continue to be on this journey, this unbecoming, surrendering to life, to my higher self, to divine guidance.
And I don't wanna miss this journey, even sometimes it seems to be a lonely path, risking being called crazy, misunderstood or not understood at all.
To me, it is more than worth it.
So unbecoming, leaving behind your old you and start your personal discovery journey - perhaps this is the true meaning of the bible verse
"Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."
And I know from my heart that heaven is here, here on earth.
May you all be blessed, happy and healthy.